By: Akerele El
I embrace all aspects of myself and I seek not the approval of others. This is one of the main affirmations I recite every morning and the mantra in which I live by.
As we encounter life experiences we may develop the tendency to base our self worth and satisfaction on how well we please others. If it appears that we have failed at doing so, it’s easy to fall into a low state of self esteem and despondency. After all, it’s easy to believe that rejection is an indication of something that we lack within ourselves. However, after years of missteps, mistakes, victories and immense growth, I find that far from the truth.
What I’ve realized is that what I seek to receive from other people can easily be found within. For example, if I am constantly searching for love, I must first love myself. When I emanate love I recognize and attract the same high vibration energy in another being. It then becomes a healthy and balanced reciprocated exchange. As the old adage states, “be the change that you want to see in the world.”
I’ve also learned to embrace my quirky, high energy, assertive nature. As a young adolescent girl, I, along with many others were taught to hide specific characteristics because they were deemed too loud, too much, and too aggressive. I cannot suppress that which produces an equilibrium state. Too much of anything is not good. I cannot be consistently quiet as a mouse with no back bone and allow people to run over me just because I am to be seen and not heard. That is preposterous. Both ends of the spectrum must merge; utilizing each at its proper appointed time is just what the doctor ordered.
See, at this point in my life I innerstand that I am the captain of my ship. I am the student and teacher. My life is what I make of it. I enjoy what I like, I am who I am. Just as I can say that with all certainty, you can as well. Begin with affirming and accepting yourself wholeheartedly. Say it with me, “I embrace all aspects of myself and I seek not the approval of others.”
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